Tucked away from the loud bustling noises of Los Angeles is a warm oasis that is home to Tova and Painter, a mother and daughter who spend their days doing art, dancing, and constantly learning from each other. Like their home, Tova and Painter's spirit is nothing short of welcoming. We explore their grounds as Tova shares her experience as a mother and its continuous graces.
I am often overwhelmed with joy about being Painter Lily's mother. It is by far the hardest and most challenging thing I have ever done in my life, but the riches that come from it are truly treasures. She has provided a deep purpose and motivation in my life that will be matched by nothing, and the joy that swells in my heart when I see her smile, hear her laugh, or hold her tight is indescribable.
My mom blessed me with a rad unique name and I felt a real duty to give one to my child as well. I was on the look out for names and words that had deep meaning to me, and when I thought of Painter... it all clicked. I had severe dyslexia when I was a kid and art was the only thing that came naturally. It was my main source of self expression and communication in school; the only subject that I had confidence and strength in. So, the name Painter was born. I figured she would be the greatest piece I ever worked on.
I'm a really easy going person so my style reflects that: comfort with an underlying boho vibe. My best friend calls my style: art teacher chic. Painter has almost always dressed herself, and she has such a strong personality that I just let her do her thing, she's always mixing colors and patterns that end up being really awesome and unusual outfits that I couldn't put together if I tried. She's like my little Punky Bruster.
Every day, she surprises me with something. When she started school, I was shocked to find out math was her favorite subject since I'm terrible at it. Painter often surprises me with her observant nature, which I think most children possess. She also has a rather large vocabulary, which makes me giggle and/or stand I with disbelief at times. My mom always told me your children are you greatest teachers and she is so right. I have a tendency to not always speak up or assert myself, but Painter Lily has taught me the grace in doing this. She is such a strong-willed girl, and doesn't apologize for her opinion or feel guilty for knowing what she wants. By being who she is, I have learned that it is okay for me to be who I am, opinions and all.